Tuesday, May 19, 2009

Don't Sweat the Small Stuff

So why do we allow ourselves to be affected by the actions of others? My mother is always telling me don't sweat the small stuff and just ignore them. "Sticks and stones my break my bones but words will never hurt me." Wow. What a concept. If that were only true. I can honestly say that most generally I would rather have someone break one of my bones than say something hurtful, spiteful, mean or dare I say it... even sometimes the plain old truth.

I've always heard that all we need to know in life we learned in Kindergarten. Here are the essentials from http://www.peace.ca/.

•Share everything.
•Play fair.
•Don't hit people.
•Put things back where you found them.
•Clean up your own mess.
•Don't take things that aren't yours.
•Say you're sorry when you hurt somebody.
•Wash your hands before you eat.
•Flush.
•Warm cookies and cold milk are good for you.
•Live a balanced life - learn some and think some and draw and paint and sing and dance and play and work every day some.
•Take a nap every afternoon.
•When you go out in the world, watch out for traffic, hold hands and stick together.
•Be aware of wonder. Remember the little seed in the Styrofoam cup: the roots go down and the plant goes up and nobody really knows how or why, but we are all like that.
•Goldfish and hamsters and white mice and even the little seed in the Styrofoam cup - they all die. So do we.
•And then remember the Dick-and-Jane books and the first word you learned - the biggest word of all - LOOK.


Everything you need to know is in there somewhere. The Golden Rule and love and basic sanitation. Ecology and politics and equality and sane living.

Ah.. wouldn't it be a better place if we all followed those rules. Especially the Golden Rule.
"Do unto others as you would have them do unto you." (Luke 6:31, NIV) Sounds alot like KARMA if you as me. I must admit, I'm not perfect.. far from it in fact; however, I try to be good, follow most of the rules of life, help my friends, family and when possible even people I don't know. Unfortunately, every once in awhile things catch up with you and you suddenly realize the golden rule, karma, good intentions, and not even a warm cookies and milk can't fix all problems.

So I guess what I am saying is yes there are going to be tough times and simple solutions are no where to be found. There will be those people who are just plain MEAN. There will be those times when what a person says or does completely affects your mood, your day or even your life to a certain extent. But maybe there truly is something to what my momma says constantly...
"Don't sweat the small stuff, Stacey." I later found out that my mom had borrowed this quote from a book series... :) The author of the Don't Sweat the Small Stuff series, Richard Carlson, claimed it's all small stuff. I don't know about that but maybe I need to read that book! Either way, everytime I call my momma in a tizzy over the latest guy who hasn't called me back, a school project crisis, money issues (which seem to happen alot when you're a poor college kid) *QUE the pity sighs* :), or when I just feel like the world is crumbling down around me, I hear "don't sweat the small stuff baby, it'll be ok". Deep down I know everything will be fine because she's right and the world won't end if my car payment is a few days late, or he doesn't call for the 3rd date, or if I couldn't get my project to print. Life WILL go on and I WILL be just fine.

Ok I'm officially rambling. My point.. Don't let people's actions or words frustrate you. I'm trying to follow this logic but it's hard!! Woo sah, grusfraba, rub the ears, WHATEVER calms you... take a deep breath, close your eyes and don't sweat the small stuff... BECAUSE IT'S ALL SMALL STUFF!

I'll leave you with a saying that I'll never forget as long as I live.. I was babysitting years ago and was all in a tizzy over who knows what but the mom, Kara Long, stopped me and said, "The people who mind don't matter and the people who matter don't mind."

Oh I love this quote. She was right, my mother was right, Mr. Carlson was right. There are not many things on this earth that can't be solved, handled, fixed or at the very least apologized for. So we all need to stop stressing, take a deep breath and enjoy life. Have a wonderful night..